"Some people like to appear tall by cutting off the heads of others," said Sri Yukteswar, guru of Paramahansa Yogananda.
Educator Booker T. Washington observed, "There are two ways of exerting one's strength; one is pushing down, the other is pulling up." Pushers and pullers are the two types of people that we need to deal with on a daily basis in this world.
The first types who pull you up, inspire you and motivate you to achieve your goals and dreams. The positive type.
The second types who push you down, suck the energy from you and demotivate you. The negative type.
Obviously we love the first variety and need more of them in our lives. Everyone certainly needs encouragement -- pulling up. Encouragement is like a cup of cool water for a dry and parched throat.
But unfortunately life doesn't consist only of pullers. It is a concoction of both types. It takes all sorts to make the world go around. We are compelled to deal with both. Dealing with the first type is the easiest. We can relate to them easily. They ooze out positivity which is infectious. It’s the second variety, the negative ones that cause the concern. It can be really tough to get back up once someone has knocked us down. Self confidence gets heavily beaten up. Self-doubt and insecurities get triggered and are hard to put aside.
How to deal with these pushers? No, Its not a rocket science.
One way of treating these people is “ignore” or “accept”. "Ignore" when we understand that the pushing down is caused by plain jealousy. "Accept" when we find that the criticism is true, based on fact and not biased. After all let’s give the benefit of doubt to the offender. Let’s work on the conjecture that not always do people have an agenda in their minds. We might’ve committed a blunder inadvertently and hence we have to deal with it. Hence let’s ‘accept’ the pushing down.
Another way of dealing with it is to accept that it’s the way these pushers are made. It’s not our task to change them. Our focus should only be on changing ourselves and our acuity for the better.
Yet another way is to keep a distance from these pushers. Leave them behind and move on. They are not worth walking along with.
And last comes the most elevated way. Send them your love! I know it’s THE MOST difficult task on earth. If all of us had achieved the echelon of this elevation, we wouldn't be discussing this topic here. Right? And why should we send them, the offenders our love? Because it’s what we expect from them. Since they are lacking in it, let’s provide them with some quotient of it.
But the silver lining in the cloud is this. Life is not so cruel. It makes sure that when someone pushes us down, there is someone else who would pull us up. Life gives us an opportunity to become a much better person stronger in heart and mind. If we stop to think about it, we’ll end up thanking both.
Educator Booker T. Washington observed, "There are two ways of exerting one's strength; one is pushing down, the other is pulling up." Pushers and pullers are the two types of people that we need to deal with on a daily basis in this world.
The first types who pull you up, inspire you and motivate you to achieve your goals and dreams. The positive type.
The second types who push you down, suck the energy from you and demotivate you. The negative type.
Obviously we love the first variety and need more of them in our lives. Everyone certainly needs encouragement -- pulling up. Encouragement is like a cup of cool water for a dry and parched throat.
But unfortunately life doesn't consist only of pullers. It is a concoction of both types. It takes all sorts to make the world go around. We are compelled to deal with both. Dealing with the first type is the easiest. We can relate to them easily. They ooze out positivity which is infectious. It’s the second variety, the negative ones that cause the concern. It can be really tough to get back up once someone has knocked us down. Self confidence gets heavily beaten up. Self-doubt and insecurities get triggered and are hard to put aside.
How to deal with these pushers? No, Its not a rocket science.
One way of treating these people is “ignore” or “accept”. "Ignore" when we understand that the pushing down is caused by plain jealousy. "Accept" when we find that the criticism is true, based on fact and not biased. After all let’s give the benefit of doubt to the offender. Let’s work on the conjecture that not always do people have an agenda in their minds. We might’ve committed a blunder inadvertently and hence we have to deal with it. Hence let’s ‘accept’ the pushing down.
Another way of dealing with it is to accept that it’s the way these pushers are made. It’s not our task to change them. Our focus should only be on changing ourselves and our acuity for the better.
Yet another way is to keep a distance from these pushers. Leave them behind and move on. They are not worth walking along with.
And last comes the most elevated way. Send them your love! I know it’s THE MOST difficult task on earth. If all of us had achieved the echelon of this elevation, we wouldn't be discussing this topic here. Right? And why should we send them, the offenders our love? Because it’s what we expect from them. Since they are lacking in it, let’s provide them with some quotient of it.
But the silver lining in the cloud is this. Life is not so cruel. It makes sure that when someone pushes us down, there is someone else who would pull us up. Life gives us an opportunity to become a much better person stronger in heart and mind. If we stop to think about it, we’ll end up thanking both.
No comments:
Post a Comment